“As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly.” – Proverbs 26:11 NIV
Here you are again. And again. . . and again. You tried everything in the book to get your husband or wife to hear what you’re saying and they still don’t get it. You’re tired of arguing about the same things over and over.
You send flowers thinking that will fix the issue. Cooking dinner didn’t work. Therefore, their response is the same as it was the last 6 times.
Why should anything be different? What did you change? You didn’t change anything because you have said it so many times you expect them to get it. You can start by changing your expectations. You have control over those because, well… The expectations are yours to begin with.
Imagine you’re playing a sport and your coach keeps calling the same play over and over. There’s a big chance the other team knows what’s coming. They are prepared to endure the design of your routined attempts. You can’t score a touchdown calling the same play repeatedly. You are the coach!!! So change the game.
Use a different tone. Look at things from another angle and you may be surprised to see something you missed before.
Sometimes the easy shot is all it takes to win the game.