How Complaining Affects Your Life

Complain: to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault.

What good is it?- Does it change your circumstances?- Does complaining get you what you want in life? Typically when someone is complaining they are expressing concerns about others.

Your wife won’t come back because you complain about it. You won’t get a raise because you b!tch about how broke you are. The rain doesn’t stop just because you wish for sunshine.

The uneasiness created from your circumstances requires internal changes.

  • Option #1- Change how you look at the situation.
  • Option #2- Do something different to modify the situation.
  • Option #3- Ignore the problem and be still. Many times the situation goes away on its own.

“Much of your pain is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.”- Khalil Gibran

Complaining only convinces others that you are not in control. 

Creating a New Way: Obession

Obsession: an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on a person’s mind. 

“By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.” – Franz Kafka

“Success isn’t always about greatness. It’s about consistency. Consistent hard work leads to success. Greatness will come.” -Dwayne Johnson

Obtaining  goals in life require a distinctive passion. Professional athletes all have something in common- their obsession! They are obsessed with the results they want. They don’t quit when working out gets hard. They don’t stop when they’re faced with obstacles. They don’t stop because someone said they wouldn’t make it. They use obstacles as tools to perfect their craft.

To achieve greatness one must become obsessed with the outcome they desire. When it seems there is no path to take; build a road. When you lack direction; design a route that leads to your dreams. When there is no door to open; start cutting a hole in the wall.

The reflection in the mirror should not spawn fear. Have a distinguished swagger about yourself that cannot be misinterpreted.

You must remain obsessed with the payoff to get paid.

Living Life With Purpose- Imagine Today

I want you to do something. No, actually that isn’t true- You need You to do something. I must warn you that this may be very difficult and uncomfortable. You need to sit back for a moment and close your eyes for 15 to 30 seconds. . .

Vividly imagine with all of your might and with extreme detail: Your mother, father, husband, wife, or even one of your own children would be gone tomorrow. Perhaps you can imagine there are only 48 hours left of your own life.

Are you finished? . . Let’s go deeper into this. Can either of you die today with no regrets?

Now you should feel it. This moment now. . . Yes, this is it! This state of singularity is truly real. Unexpected and unwarranted you suddenly become awake!!!

By the virtue of death, loss, and mortality something magical unfolds; truth and purpose. Losing a loved one makes the world stop spinning: What your friends are doing doesn’t matter- the post someone liked on Facebook is irrelevant- rude cashier at the store is forgotten- the rude text message you read earlier is mentally deleted.

Your perception of meaningless things, thoughts, habits, and even people abruptly fashion to a diminished essence. The illusion of control quickly subdues. Stress and anxiety no longer dangle beyond the bounds of your spirit. This ‘quantum-emotional chaos’ creates new emotions – eradicating others.

As a result of your destitution, your unconditional closeness seems as if it was snatched out of your grasp.  Isolation and desertion reside where comfort and compassion once lived. Your life is reformed through the disappearance of value, compassion, morality, and love. People you trusted most begin to expose their agendas throughout the duration of your squandering.  In search of your foes, you begin losing friends. The depletion of the life you once knew, or foolishly thought existed, shapes into something real. Alleged loyalist suddenly modify their commitment. The trace of their stench creates more emotional disruption. A filthy residue of anger, pain, and resentment is left behind.

Not all is lost. Maneuvering through the complexity of the world becomes simple. Through the solitude and abandonment your mind suddenly undergoes metamorphism. The illumination of truth begins to craft confidence and capability in your heart. Clarity becomes a stepping stone towards an unmistakable purpose. Now you can see what has been holding you back. The phantasm of loyalty and expectations fade to black.

The REAL YOU starts to come back to life! In an attempt to impetuously move forward, you are gifted with wisdom. Performance and accomplishment begins to reach heightened levels. The fucks you previously gave hit an all-time low.

Now you understand love deeper than before. Now you confide in skepticism. Your gut becomes your guide. Loyalty is no longer a free badge neglectfully worn by friends and family.  The declaration of devoted allies was previously accepted on good faith. Adversaries no longer assail in darkness with forged affection.

The opening of your eyes is never a guarantee. Tomorrow is not promised to anyone; therefore, make changes today. Do not make the mistake of speculating opportunities or even people will be there tomorrow.

Every moment you take a breath- you’re a moment closer. Remove anything that does not enhance your life experience. Love every second and live everyday like you are dying tomorrow. 

Procrastination- The BLOODLESS COMPLACENCY

Procrastination: the act or habit of putting off or delaying; especially something requiring immediate attention. The act of willfully delaying the doing of something that should be done.

The hand of the diligent will rule, but the slack hand will be put to forced labor.– Proverbs 12:24
YOU SAID YOU WANTED: (allegedly)
  • A promotion. . . but won’t get to work on time. 
  • To get rich. . . but you’re in the bed.
  • To start a company. . . but you’re laying on the couch.
  • A healthy relationship. . . but you don’t want to listen to your spouse.
  • A clean home. . . you won’t do the dishes.
  • Your kids to do well in school. . . but you’re too tired to help them succeed.

You desire all these things, yet lack the willpower to produce a glimpse of effort. You could stop being lazy, but you’re too lazy to do it.
Only hard work yields riches. The display of dedication and being uncomfortable spawns accomplishment.
There is not a soul that accomplished their dreams being lethargic.  Never put off what you can do today. Convincing yourself you will do it tomorrow is what you said yesterday.
Nothing comes to a sleeper aside from a dream and flourishment belongs to the assiduous.
The only antidote for procrastination is action. 

“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.” – Abraham Lincoln
“The man who moves a mountain begins by carrying away small stones.” – Confucius

To Reach Success: Don’t Give Up

Give up: to yield control or possession of or surrender.

When life presents obstacles or uncertainty your behavior shapes into that of a helpless infant.

Unlike the infant you have the ability to help yourself. You can pick yourself up. Nobody else can succeed for you.

Surrendering or giving possession of your desires doesn’t help you. Hold tight to your inclinations and appetites. Let your wishes fuel the manifestation to your destiny. Maintain a stronghold on all of your aspirations.

Work harder. Work smarter. Step back and see the mistakes you’ve made. Visualize what you will do different and see yourself winning. Crying is ok. . . giving up is not an option.

Leave no room for any outcome other than success and you will have just that.

MALNUTRITION:

Malnutrition– lack of adequate nutrition resulting from insufficient food, unbalanced diet, or lack of adequate nutrition from insufficient food, or defective assimilation.

Your mind and spirit have an appetite that needs to be acknowledged. Lack of sufficient food for your soul have detrimental effects. You must take care of them just as you do the body.

Anorexia effects the body just as wisdom does the mind and spirit; feed them daily.  

WHAT IS IT?:

What are you looking for?!?!?

  • If I could just get her/him to do this- then I would be that.
  • If I could just make a few more dollars- then I would be able to do this.
  • If I could just. . .

Everything you need you were born with. Conjectures of inadequacy stream throughout your experience. This moment right now . . . conceptualize that inefficiency is not part of your existence.

The world will convince you that you are lacking something. Do not believe the worlds bulls***.

Nothing outside of you will eliminate your deficiency. You are it!